False ignorance is the fuck you of the 21st century. Back in the day, if you didn’t like someone or didn’t want to talk to them, you’d tell them so. If they were a jerk you’d let them know and you’d let them know why. Modern society however seems to be dealing with this situation though what is know as the Ostrich syndrome, which follows the principle that if you can’t see it, it isn’t there. I’m not sure where this term is derived from or what it has to do with giant birds incapable of flight, but they talked about it in Clerks, so I’m using it as the example.
But I keep finding more and more people who I know who are getting fed up with peers or adversaries, and are reverting to cowardly methods to deal with these situations. One example is a friend I had who was doing some business for some other friends, and decided that he wasn’t happy with how things were being handled an so he decided that he no longer wanted to do this work for him any more. Now the logical thing to do would be to go to this person and explain why things aren’t working out and that he would need to find someone else to do this job for him. Get things cleared up and move on. However, since my friend is very passive aggressive (i.e. a pussy) he decided that the best way to deal with this situation would be to never return his phone calls. And thanks to call ID, he could screen his calls so that when this person would try to contact him he wouldn’t have to answer. Now this idea sounds good in theory, but the fact remains that he was being called every single day, some days multiple times. For 3 months. Now, if someone calls you every day for 3 months, you can’t pretend you’re not getting the message. You can try and tell people that you just missed their call or didn’t get their message if they call once, but 3 months? People know when they’re being ignored. Well, the pussy tried to stick to his guns, ended up never answering anyone’s phone calls and moved home with out telling anyone. Now all of this could have been sorted out with a simple phone call, but because he didn’t want people thinking he was a jerk by saying how he felt, he ended up hiding from all of his friends. That ain’t no way to be.
But why do people think they can get away with bullshit excuses like this? “My dog ate my homework” didn’t work in grade school and “I didn’t get your message” doesn’t work now, especially when the person calls you multiple times over a long period of time. I find all sorts of people doing it all the time. They don’t want to tell someone no because they’re afraid the person will get mad. This makes the person worse than mad because it drives them insane over the fact that their messages aren’t going through, and they being lied to about it. So be a man. People are going to think you’re a bigger jerk for shunning people who consider you a friend than for you stating your case and explaining yourself. “I forgot” isn’t a good lie and people know it because they use it themselves. So be true and not a dick and fess up to your feeling before you find yourself fleeing your once interesting life, leaving behind people who feel hurt and a bunch of rumors that you and your ex-roommate are gay.
Things I’m Into Right Now
-Jawbreaker’s “Dear You” album
-The Urban Legend Show on MTV
-Mr. Show; The Complete Third Season DVD
-Blink playing a 21+ show this Saturday
-Nora Blank
-The Bouncing Souls
-The Kid Dynamite DVD
-The approaching Talk Like a Pirate Day (September 19th)
-Ripping off list ideas from Big Brother Magazine
Things I’m Not Really Into Right Now
-The 2003 MTV Video Music Awards
-Johnny Cash being in the hospital again
-People constantly reminding me what a loser I am because I’m unemployed
-Being unemployed
-Henry Weinhards Blue Boar Pale Ale being discontinued (if you know where to find some, contact me)
-People who wear scarves in San Diego
-How hot my apartment gets, especially at night
But I keep finding more and more people who I know who are getting fed up with peers or adversaries, and are reverting to cowardly methods to deal with these situations. One example is a friend I had who was doing some business for some other friends, and decided that he wasn’t happy with how things were being handled an so he decided that he no longer wanted to do this work for him any more. Now the logical thing to do would be to go to this person and explain why things aren’t working out and that he would need to find someone else to do this job for him. Get things cleared up and move on. However, since my friend is very passive aggressive (i.e. a pussy) he decided that the best way to deal with this situation would be to never return his phone calls. And thanks to call ID, he could screen his calls so that when this person would try to contact him he wouldn’t have to answer. Now this idea sounds good in theory, but the fact remains that he was being called every single day, some days multiple times. For 3 months. Now, if someone calls you every day for 3 months, you can’t pretend you’re not getting the message. You can try and tell people that you just missed their call or didn’t get their message if they call once, but 3 months? People know when they’re being ignored. Well, the pussy tried to stick to his guns, ended up never answering anyone’s phone calls and moved home with out telling anyone. Now all of this could have been sorted out with a simple phone call, but because he didn’t want people thinking he was a jerk by saying how he felt, he ended up hiding from all of his friends. That ain’t no way to be.
But why do people think they can get away with bullshit excuses like this? “My dog ate my homework” didn’t work in grade school and “I didn’t get your message” doesn’t work now, especially when the person calls you multiple times over a long period of time. I find all sorts of people doing it all the time. They don’t want to tell someone no because they’re afraid the person will get mad. This makes the person worse than mad because it drives them insane over the fact that their messages aren’t going through, and they being lied to about it. So be a man. People are going to think you’re a bigger jerk for shunning people who consider you a friend than for you stating your case and explaining yourself. “I forgot” isn’t a good lie and people know it because they use it themselves. So be true and not a dick and fess up to your feeling before you find yourself fleeing your once interesting life, leaving behind people who feel hurt and a bunch of rumors that you and your ex-roommate are gay.
Things I’m Into Right Now
-Jawbreaker’s “Dear You” album
-The Urban Legend Show on MTV
-Mr. Show; The Complete Third Season DVD
-Blink playing a 21+ show this Saturday
-Nora Blank
-The Bouncing Souls
-The Kid Dynamite DVD
-The approaching Talk Like a Pirate Day (September 19th)
-Ripping off list ideas from Big Brother Magazine
Things I’m Not Really Into Right Now
-The 2003 MTV Video Music Awards
-Johnny Cash being in the hospital again
-People constantly reminding me what a loser I am because I’m unemployed
-Being unemployed
-Henry Weinhards Blue Boar Pale Ale being discontinued (if you know where to find some, contact me)
-People who wear scarves in San Diego
-How hot my apartment gets, especially at night
